Girl Talk: Too Independent?


Too independent? I have been told on many occasions that I am.  Most recently I was told that I have independent women’s syndrome.  That statement actually made me laugh out loud.  When did it become a bad thing to have the ability to take care of yourself?

I underwent a serious transformation, for the better, after I separated and divorced my husband.  That was probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.  I had been with my husband so long I didn’t know how to be an individual anymore.   I was heartbroken, depressed, stressed and angry.  To make matters worse I was completely alone with no friends or family nearby.  Despite feeling like a chewed up piece of gum I swore to myself that I would become a better woman no matter what.

So here I am Ms. Independent.  It took a very long time but in the end I turned out to be okay.  Actually I am better then okay I am great.  I am proud of myself, I am confident, and I do a great job of taking care of me.  I will never make any apologies for that, it took me too long to get where I am.

So yes I am independent I don’t need anyone for anything.  I don’t ever ask anyone for anything unless it’s a dire emergency. If I want something I work towards it.  I always try to have a plan A, B, C and D just in case.  I guess some people might consider my “super” independence a problem.  Being dependent on another person requires some level vulnerability which comes with trust and I am just not there yet.  I put everything I had into my marriage and I was the chick that felt like I didn’t need a contingency plan because I was going to be married FOREVER! Welp, nothing is forever and I won’t ever get caught slipping again, lesson learned.  I just know I need to do what’s best for me and what makes me happy no matter what.  I won’t ever apologize for who I am and what makes me happy.

Have you been told your too independent and if so what’s your response. Have you ever heard of “independent women’s syndrome”?

P.S. Check out this list of 20 things women should stop apologizing for, pay close attention to #5.